Tim , unfortunately shit happens . If the parents arent together anymore over time your boy will realise that both still love him if things arent meant to be they arent meant to be . Better to both parents to be happy and having separate lives than staying together any argueing etc as believe me your boy will pick up on that .
Let me tell you a story . Me , myself im on the other end of a relationship . I have a partner of 4 years who has 2 boys . Now im not saying you are a bad parent or anything like that but just gonna tell you what i have been through .
Their father was and is an alcoholic their mother didnt believe in divorce for the sake of the boys . But after years of emotional abuse yelling and screaming mostly from him all the broken promises he was forcefully removed by a restraining order . He didnt think about were or what his boys heard at the times all this was going on . The house had holes in the walls and all that shit and he never did anything at all with them as that was mums job .
A couple of years later as their mother vowed never to have a relationship again etc etc this handsome goodlooking bloke well this must be me sort of appeared on the seen . Now we had been friends for many years and had never thought anything of it and over 6 months plus something started to develope . Now at this stage the boys dad still had access only so mum could have a break from it all but i wont go into details but he kept fucking it up . He even told the boys that i was the reason why they all broke up even tho i was living overseas at the time . He tried everything he could to break it all up . He had the better job more money and threw money at them like any thing , while i would be the 1 that would take them to the beach and the park etc... Then 1 night at their place i cracked open a beer and then the shit could of hit the fan , they thort i was gonna put holes in the wall and yell and scream and break their toys . I sat them down and told them its ok to have a drink but not ok to have that many to the fact that you dont know what you are doing or hurting .
As the years went on their dad kept fucking it up only wanting to see them when he wanted to , and his new partner well its history repeating its self with them in the firing line as i found out from the boys when they stay at my place . It usually went like when we stay at dads he does this and this .
He didnt care what he was doing til 1 night at 11pm i get this call from the eldest boy Dads been taken away by police he was gonna kill them and us .
I only asked 1 thing , do you want me to come pick you up and the answer was yes . For an 11 year old boy who idolises his dad to have that happen its just sad . So a 600 km trip later we were all back safe and sound . Then the next day i put my foot down no more of his shit and the boys who over the years have had behavioral issues with what they have seen and heard are now in a happy safe environment .
Now Tim not saying this guy is you at all but its the little things in life that matter spend time with your boy when you have him cherish what you both have together . There will be a time there will be another guy on the seen but be a man you are his dad and nothing will ever take that away from the both of you and as he gets older he is gonna want to do guy stuff with ya so you go do that . In my case the boys now have a father they dont really want to know and i think thats sad . He has never seen them play sport has never taken them to the park . These are just some things that do stick in their minds.
And then their dad doesnt have a Vmax either , so when its time to sync the carbs etc i always have 2 helpers there with tools ready .
I think you wil be fine you just have to be his Dad thru all the good times and bad and be there for him .
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